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1 Easy Step To Increase Your Soul Confidence Today

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1 Easy Step To Increase Your Soul Confidence Today


Has your confidence been low lately?

If you are a spiritual woman who struggles to feel confident because you don’t want to

  • -Take up too much space
  • -Seem egoic/inauthentic
  • -Feel selfish
  • -Intimidate others

Then this blog is for you.

In this blog, I am going to share with you a SUPER simple, yet EXTREMELY profound healing tool that you can use to increase your Soul Confidence TODAY. 


What is Soul Confidence? 

Confidence is the state of feeling certain or trusting something. Soul Confidence is trusting your inner truth so deeply, that nothing can shake you from your authenticity. We are all born with Soul Confidence. 


Where Do We Lose Our Confidence?

Can you remember a specific time when a loved one criticized you in a manner that made you feel like you weren’t enough? 

Perhaps a friend told you that you didn’t look good in that outfit or a parent told you that you should play it safe rather than following your dream.

It’s easy to mistake someone’s judgment or criticism as an act of love when we care about them, but these tiny comments are the bricks that become tied to our ankles and hold us back from reaching our highest selves. 


How Can We Get Our Soul Confidence Back?

Lucky for us, Soul Confidence can be achieved with practice. We don’t even need to learn Soul Confidence. All we have to do is UNLEARN the illusions that we were taught. 

Take a moment to calm your nervous system by taking 7 DEEP (as deep as you can) breaths. Hold them at the top. When you can’t hold it any longer, SLOWLY (as slow as you possibly can) release each breath. 


Now, take a moment to reflect on the times in your childhood where you felt incompetent or unworthy and send that little girl some love. She has been working hard! 

There are thousands of ways to increase your confidence at a soul level, but today I only want to share one with you, because I know that this practice alone changed my life. 


Affirmations For Confidence & Self Worth

An affirmation is a word or phrase used to for emotional support & encouragement. You can use an affirmation at any point in your day. Often, people use affirmations in their meditations. 

I like to use my affirmation as soon as I wake up. When my eyes open, I begin repeating my affirmation in my mind. 


How I’ve Used Affirmations

This past week I challenged my body in a way that I never thought I would again (after the Army). I pushed myself to the extreme and hiked a level 3 mountain climb that I was grossly unprepared for. About one mile into my 15-mile hike (14,259 summit elevation) I had blisters forming on my feet. 

I couldn’t stop thinking about the pain because, well… It funking hurt.  

I found myself chanting a few different mantras (Sanskrit phrases that are similar to affirmations) to keep my mind from my physical pain. One of the mantras was “Om Mani Padme Hum”. 

At the time, I had no idea what that mantra meant, so it’s funny that this is the one that came to mind. 

“Om Mani Padme Hum” translates to “honor the jewel in the lotus”. This mantra is meant to calm fears, soothe concerns, and heal broken hearts. 

Even without knowing what this affirmation meant, my heart knew that this was the affirmation that I needed to use to hike this mountain, just like your heart knows the affirmation that YOU need. 



Choosing Your Affirmation For Soul Confidence

Your affirmation doesn’t need to be Sanskrit. You can use an English mantra that you create yourself. 

Your affirmation doesn’t need to be anything fancy. Go back to the exercise that you did and remember the little girl within you. What does she need to hear? 

Take your time and listen for the mantra to come to you. It will come. 

When I am waiting for GUS (God/Universe/Spirit) to give me a mantra, it usually feels like I take a punch when it comes through

I find myself distraught sometimes because it’s SO perfect. Like, DUH. Of course, it’s that. Of course, it’s THAT hard pill that I need to swallow. 



How To Use Your Affirmation


When you have an affirmation that feels good for you, write it down. Write it on sticky notes and put it all over the place. Place it on your mirror in your bathroom, in your car, on your fridge, etc.

Spend at least a few minutes every day repeating this affirmation to yourself. When you speak it out loud, you enhance the power.


For the next 7 days, repeat this mantra AT LEAST 3 times each morning when you wake up.


Use your affirmation as often as you can remember. You can also leverage your technology by setting alarms that remind you to speak your affirmation.

How many times can you say this affirmation in 7 days? The more energy that you give to your affirmation, the quicker it will manifest into your reality.


The Power Of Using Affirmations Together How To Use Your Affirmation

When we use affirmations or mantras in a group, we MULTIPLY the power.

On August 16th you will have the opportunity to join my tribe and I as we chant our affirmations together. Sometimes it can be hard to bring yourself to utter words when they don’t quite feel true yet. 

Having a group of sisters who are also being vulnerable and courageous is extremely inspiring and moving.

We all need community, support, and sisterhood. We would love to provide that for you at our Goddess Empowerment Retreat. You can pre-register here. The First five registrars will receive a 20% discount! 


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Goddess Empowerment Retreat: 9 Reasons You Won’t Want To Miss It

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9 Magical Reasons Not To Miss The Goddess Empowerment Retreat


You will have the opportunity to share space with Whitney Sause and many other magnificent Goddesses. 

Whitney is a 6 year army vet, NLP coach, Reiki Master, Self-actualization guide, alpha Centauri light-warrior. Whitney contains a vast array of knowledge on mindfulness, meditation, self actualization, and inner peace. 


You will get to create powerful deep relationships with the other women that attend this event. This safe space is intended to empower you to connect deeply with other women.

This type of event is where we can put aside our differences and judgments, and allow our hearts to connect. This is DIVINE connection. 


Sacred Ceremony. Since the beginning of time, humans have been ritualistic creatures. We have rituals that we practice daily without even noticing, such as brushing our teeth!

Sacred Ceremony is when we unite in oneness to practice spiritual rituals together. By combining our divine energy, we are increasing our intentions immensely!


Energy Clearing. Each one of us is made up of energy. Throughout our days, we have experiences that knock us out of alignment and allow our chakras to become unbalanced.

When we practice energy clearing, we balance our chakras again and we come back to peace, harmony, and love. 


Movement medicine. Our entire bodies carry trauma, not only just our minds. When we move our body, we break up stuck energy. Free movement allows you to just feel your body and allow it to do what it needs to without judgment.

If you ever see animals get into a fight or get hurt, they literally shake it off. They are shaking that energy off from their body so that it doesn’t stay on them. Humans need to do the same! 


Yoga flow. Yoga is an eastern practice that has been widely adopted by the western world for it’s MANY benefits. Yoga is the yolk of life. It isn’t just a practice, but a lifestyle.

Yoga is about balance, awareness, movement, flexibility, space, compassion, and mindfulness. When we flow, we connect the thinking mind to the feeling body and the vibrating spirit.


Affirmation circle. Affirmations are hands down, one of the most powerful tools that I have used in my healing journey. 

Humans are addicted to thoughts. When we are feeding our minds a lower vibration diet- we will have the inner critique offering us negative and fear based thoughts.

Affirmations fill the space that was once filled with negative thinking patterns. By taking up the space rather than just trying to stop the negative thinking, we ensure there will be no room for the negative thinking to return. There will no longer be any space for it. 


Elemental wisdom connection. The earth is trillions of years old. Mama Gaia is the most loving, supportive, abundant mother that we could have asked for. She nourishes us in so many ways. We are blessed to be created by the same elements of the earth.

Earth my body. Water my blood. Air my breath. Fire my spirit.

When the divine feminine connects in sacred ceremony outdoors in nature, we are connecting to that which we are. We are allowing our bodies to sync with the circadian Rhythm of the land that supports our existence. This reduces stress and boosts your immune system. It’s free medicine! 


Sacred Sisterhood. This is the safest zone you will ever find. The intentions that I curate for these events are powerful and pure.

This space is open for your wildest emotions. This is a space where you will not only be accepted, but valued. 



Goddess Empowerment Retreat

Join us on August 16th at 5-7 PM Minor park, Kansas City

✨Yoga w/ Darlene Julkowski (5-5:45p)
✨Guided Energy Clearing Meditation w/ Whitney Sause (5:50-6:30p)
✨Affirmation Circle (6:30-6:45p)
✨Movement Medicine (6:45-7p+)
✨Elemental Wisdom Connection
✨Divine Goddess Connection & Support

What you can bring to enhance your experience:

💕Yoga Mat
💕Meditation Cushion
💕Essential Oils
💕Comfy Clothes
💕Loved ones


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Why It’s So Hard For Strong Women To Ask For Help

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You’re leaving your best friend’s house, walking to your car with a few armloads of stuff. Her husband offers to help you with the load and you say “No, I’ve got it! Thanks!”


You’re struggling to carry everything, your arm hurts, you’re about to drop your keys, but you still declined the kind offer. Why? 


Why wouldn’t you just say “Yes, I would love some help!”


Why It’s Hard For Strong Women To Ask For Help:


Taught To Be Independent 

We don’t want to be a burden for others. We have been taught: 

  • Be strong
  • Don’t be weak
  • Take care of our own stuff
  • Carry our own weight 
  • Don’t be needy


We feel like we will lose our sense of control if we rely on someone else.

This type of conditioning from society has created a fear of asking for help even when it will make our lives EASIER. 

Not wanting to seem weak or needy can turn a  problem into a crisis.


Women Are Nurturers

This is just another story of how society has thrown us into a box. Are women nurturers? Sure. I love that part of myself, but this has been a delegated task for generations. 

It is okay to nurture your loved ones when the giving and receiving are balanced and harmonious.


Never Taught How To Ask For Help 

Maybe we really want to ask for help but we just aren’t sure how to do that because we were never taught how. 


Have you ever felt stupid, unworthy, unlovable, or uneducated because you didn’t know the answer to something? 

I have noticed that many women with low self-esteem also struggle with the fear of rejection.

Being told no is actually not a bad thing, it is a sign of progress. It is important to re-frame the emotions around this story.

Working to build your self-esteem will help you overcome these feelings of inadequacy. Asking for help is a sign of intelligence. No one in the world knows the answer to everything. 


They Should Know I Need Help

Most people are not psychic. They cannot read exactly what you need or how specifically they can best help you. It is not realistic to expect people to help you without first asking them for what you need. 

We might experience feelings of rejection if we are close to someone and they are not noticing our needs. 

Is there a part of me that is resistant to asking for help?


Energy Drainer

If you are an introvert or an empath, it might be more draining to ask someone for help.

Asking someone for help means that we have to discuss the details with them and answer all of their questions. 

If you are already dealing with a challenging situation, it may be more energetically draining to call someone else in. 


Abusing Privilege

For Empaths and lightworkers, it might be difficult to ask for help because we don’t want to use more resources than we feel we “need” or “deserve”. 

Are you convincing yourself that you have it easier than others and you shouldn’t ask for help? This is a self-worth challenge.


Fear Of Debt

With the universal law of Reciprocity, we fear to be in debt to someone. 

When you ask for help, don’t promise them an “IOU”. If you need anything, just ask for help. Receive the help and then after, if you feel inspired- send them a thank you card.

Remember, most people love to help! 


Fear Of Judgment

The majority of Eastern society is based on perfectionism and shaming. Asking someone else for help is a sign of vulnerability. 

If you have felt unsafe to be vulnerable in the past, you might have an internal block. 


Why we should ask for help


People Want To Help

Most people love the feeling of helping someone else. It is rewarding and satisfying to be able to give someone something that they need, especially when they have clearly asked you for it. 

Men especially love when you are clear about your needs. 

(Most) People Can’t Read Your Mind

We can’t expect people who have yet to tap into their telepathic capabilities to read our minds, unfortunately. 

If we want someone to help us, we have to ask them by telling them CLEARLY what we need. Don’t be shy, that doesn’t help anyone. 


No One Will Judge You

Don’t worry about people judging or not liking you. Everyone needs help at some point in their life. People can only judge us if we give them permission. 

If someone judges us for needing help, it is because they are projecting their personal perspective of themselves onto us. We are worthy of as much help as we need. 


Unmet Needs For Attention Manifest As Dis-ease

You read that right. When we need attention that we are not receiving, it can manifest as dis-ease in our bodies. Physical manifestations of dis-ease come from suppressing our emotions for too long. 

It takes self-awareness and courage to accept being imperfect and ask for help. Most of us are not taught how to be sympathetic or gentle with ourselves.

We ALL require rest and help. There is nothing shameful or wrong with needing help. We must listen to our bodies to take care of ourselves. 


Successful people know how to ask for help. 

“The only stupid question is no question at all.”


How to ask for help


Be Direct

Clear is kind. People don’t like when they feel like their time is wasted. Use as few words as possible. Don’t beat around the bush. Be concise and direct about your needs. 


Rely On Reliable People

Use your knowledge about someone and your intuition to determine if they are the person that you should ask. Don’t ask someone who is a constant flake or doesn’t seem to care about your needs.


Ask In Person

If possible, ask the person face to face. Asking in text can seem inauthentic and you might send the wrong message because you lack the extra element of expression when you are someone’s physical presence.

Yes, it may be more challenging for you to do it this way, but when you feel that fear and do it anyways- you are growing!


Notice Their Reaction

Are They excited or reluctant? You are clear, kind, concise, and direct, yet you feel like the person isn’t too excited to help. Give them a second to think about it before you abort the mission. 

If they are still hesitant or reluctant, just tell them it is okay! You will 100% be able to find the right person to help you. Just don’t give up. 


Say Thank You

Express your gratitude. If you have the habit of frequently apologizing- please don’t do that. Just tell them how appreciative you are. Give thanks when they agree to help you, while they are helping you, and when they have finished helping you. 


Give Details

When asking for help, give the person details so that they can help you as best as they can. Vulnerability is a super power. 


Tell Them Why You Chose Them To Help You 

People love to hear positive reflections of themselves. Offer them insight into why you chose them specifically to help you with the task at hand. This makes the other person feel even better about themselves and might make them want to help you more. 


Join us on July 19th at 7:30 PM CST for a Goddess New Moon Ceremony 

  • Powerful Affirmation Circle
  • Reiki Energy Healing
  • Soul Connection
  • Intention Setting
  • Powerful Manifestation 
  • Meditation
  • Enhanced Divine Energies


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6 Simple Ways To Achieve Soul Confidence

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6 Simple Ways To Achieve Soul Confidence

What Is Soul Confidence? 

Soul Confidence is a deep internal knowing and loving. It is a level of respect and admiration for the truest and most authentic version of yourself. Soul Confidence is the emotional stability to walk into any situation and express your truth without fearing how others might respond. There is no ego involved in Soul Confidence, it is a pure state of self-awareness. 


A woman with Soul Confidence takes great care of herself spiritually, mentally, physically, and energetically. She is confident in her truths and unafraid to share them. She trusts the messages that she is receiving from her body and heart. 


Soul Confidence is the state where you aren’t afraid to stand out or learn something. You are not afraid to be different or “weird”, because you know your purpose.  


We are all born with Soul Confidence. When we are born, we are close to the spiritual realm that we came from. (We come from a source much greater than us). Before we are exposed to challenges, we have a clear understanding that we are divine and here for a purpose. We know that we are children of GUS (God, Universe, Spirit)


How Do We Lose Soul Confidence?


Since we are born with Soul Confidence, what happens to it? Where did we lose the deep authentic self love and confidence along the way? 


  • Most people are not taught how to connect deeply.
  • We are taught language, but we are not taught how to communicate our emotions OR love ourselves deeply. 
  • We are not taught about how to recognize and express our needs and desires. 
  • We are also not taught that we can have whatever we want. Especially now that we are moving into a more feminine world. (EXCITING!)


We slowly begin losing our Soul Confidence over time because of things that we hear and see. We might have a seemingly insignificant interaction with our parents when we are young that causes us to feel like we are “not enough” in some way. 


Maybe a someone we like tells us that we aren’t pretty.


Perhaps someone tells you that you do not look good in a certain piece of clothing.


That can be enough to spiral you into a state of low self-worth. 


Because we are not taught how to cultivate and maintain Soul Confidence, we shove that negative feeling way way down and we begin trying to fit into this image of what we think will make others happy. 


With access to the internet, we now see so many people’s lives and feel like if we-


  • Have what they have
  • Do what they do
  • Look how they look


Then we will be lovable. 


The problem here is, you are already lovable! You have always been, and always will be lovable. Even the most weird and quirky thing about you! There is nothing that you can buy, wear, or do that will change the fact that you are a perfectly imperfect creation of SOURCE ENERGY. 


How Can We Cultivate Soul Confidence? 


The more comfortable you are with YOU, the more people will naturally be attracted to you.  People can sense when you are being authentic because you will wear a different kind of glow


When we are deeply loving ourselves and showing up how we feel most comfortable, people will want to know how we are doing it! 


“Why is she so comfortable and confident!?”  


1. Stop Worrying About What Other People Think Of You

This one is #1 for a reason. It was the most challenging thing for me to embody. I love making people happy, and I love when people like me. It doesn’t feel good to not be liked. 


The trick is, know who’s opinion to care about, and forget the rest. 

Make a list of people who you admire. People who have achieved a lifestyle that you wish to achieve. Look at all areas of their lives. 

If you are still trying to live up to your parents expectations, but you don’t like where your parents are in life- you are going to stay in a circle of mind-fuckery. You can’t impress someone who 


 A) You don’t want to impress 

B) Isn’t “Impressible” because they don’t even know what the hell THEY want. AMIRIGHT?

Where do you want to be? Who is someone that IS where you want to be? Would they approve of the way you are living? What steps do you need to take to align with your dreams? 

2. Resolve Traumas 

Soul Confidence comes from resolving traumas and triggers that block you from authentically expressing yourself. If you are lacking Self-Confidence, it is because at one point in your journey you felt unsafe to be you. That’s traumatic. 

Can you think of a time when you felt unsafe being yourself? 


You can start healing these wounds by writing a letter to the part of yourself that is hurting. Tell her what she needs to hear. Comfort her. Love her deeply. Make her feel safe to be herself. 

3. Making great decisions in each moment.

Each moment is an opportunity. It is imperative to give responsibility to the future. When you are in the present moment, giving responsibility to your future self- meaning, making the best decisions for the future you- you will increase your confidence because it feels GOOD to make the right decision, ESPECIALLY when it is not the easy decision.



 4. Fail Fast. Fail Forward. Fail Often.

Recreate your relationship with failure. What are your beliefs around failure? Are you afraid to fail? Why? What would happen if you failed? What will happen if you don’t try? 

When we feel self-conscious, we can get paralyzed from opinions or outcomes. If you never try, you will never learn. Furthermore, if you never learn, you will never succeed

Failure is necessary for growth. There is not a single soul on this planet that has achieved their personal idea of success without failing first. 


 5. Get Clear On What You Stand For

Do you know what you stand for? What are your core values? What are your principles? (these are two different things)

Write down your core values and principles. Make a list of things that you REALLY care about. Get to know yourself. Start exploring ideas and concepts that you feel deeply passionate about. 

When we aren’t clear on who we are, it makes it challenging to stand up for what you believe in. Make a clear “I am” statement. 


 6. Take Great Care Of Yourself

How can we expect others to respect us if we don’t respect ourselves? Consciously observe each activity that you give energy to. Refer to your list of principles. Note EVERYTHING that you consume. Be it food, TV, literature, music, partners, etc. 

Notice every aspect of life and change the areas that make you feel unhappy. 

When someone has a deep level of Soul confidence, they are grounded in their truth. She will feel so sure of herself that she shares what is on her mind. She is not afraid to say something that is wrong because she is excited to learn. She knows that she can change her mind as new information comes in. 

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Collective Energy Shift

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Have you been feeling the collective energy shifts? 


Avoiding world issues seems to no longer be an option, which is great!  People are being forced to get uncomfortable and deal with ancient conditioning. Hello, change! 

As COVID forced us into our homes, we had the chance to go internal. If your experience was anything like mine- a lot of shit came up. Don’t forget, shit coming up is a GOOD thing! 


Triggers arise to show us areas that we need to heal. 


As COVID asked us to go inward, we had more time than ever to explore WHO WE ARE and WHAT WE WANT. (If you didn’t take the time to do that, now’s your chance to get started.)


Now, as the world protests the murder of Geoge Floyd, we are asked to look inward again as we acknowledge what privilege means to us. 


It can be challenging to remember what is important to us if we aren’t clear on what we stand for. This week (and every week) I encourage you to do a meditation followed by reflection. In your reflection, ask yourself “What do I stand for?”

Do you want change? Do you want peace? Better communication? Love? Money? A bigger house? A new government? Answers? A new job? What does your SOUL want RIGHT NOW?


You can ask your higher self to guide you to the answers that you need. 


I strongly encourage you to be extremely mindful of where your attention is right now. There have been multiple nights where I was up past my bedtime scrolling Facebook as my blood boiled. I wasn’t serving anyone by doing that. How can you make a difference right now while also putting self-care first?


It is healthy to put our needs first.


If you are feeling called to take action, do it from inspiration, not fear. 

This week, what do you want? How can you take inspired action to move towards it? How can you make the process enjoyable? 


Let me know your thought’s on this and please share if you feel called. Sending so much love to you.

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Creating Inner-Peace

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Inner Peace Comes From Discipline and Training.

Good news for us Westerners, we love taking action! Except, this isn’t the kind of action you are probably thinking. When we think of “action” we think more of a strong movement in a forward direction towards a specific desired outcome. The type of action I am speaking of is a lot more challenging for us. Slowing down is the action that leads us to the internal bliss that we are seeking.

In the past, the Western Hemisphere hasn’t exactly set us up for success when it comes to internal peace. It’s totally possible now and becoming easier and easier, but we have to create some strong habits and boundaries. If you are in the Western world with me, you know that we have been conditioned to GO GO GO and DO DO DO. We have been taught to be achievement-based, which is fun! We are here to evolve and expand, but many people seem to be forgetting a really important piece of this puzzle.


We are spiritual beings having a human experience

Not the other way around. Our spirit/soul incarnated into a human body. When we transition into our next form (die), our spirit will leave the human body, and we will be free-roaming energy. We are the awareness of the experience. The watcher of the thoughts. Not the thinker. When we become conscious that we are not our thoughts, we can become free of stress, anxiety, worry, and fear.


Our soul needs discipline in order to reach heightened states of performance and fulfillment.

You might have resistance to discipline if you have inner conflict about your current standards.  This happens when something within you knows that you are capable of more but you are resisting it because you feel safe where you are. The unknown is scary. Inner peace requires training in areas like breath-work, meditation, and yogaThere will only be resistance if these habits are new and need to be built.


When we are children, our parents, teachers, and community leaders set the “standard”.

Sometimes the example that we witnessed was not congruent with what we needed, but that is what we saw, and so we adopted it as our own.

Now, you are an adult and you are free to make the decision to recreate your personal standard. You need to adjust your internal thermostat to the temperature that you DESIRE in each area of your life.

Are you living up to your potential in each area? Are you holding on to a story that is holding you from stepping into the next level?


Send me an email and let me know what new habits you are adopting as you step into the next version of yourself. Inflate your new truth with life as you write it and make it a tangible form. Once you share it, it is alive! 



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